Intersect’s Marriage Q&A Series no.4

Every week of Intersect’s I Said What? summer marriage series, we are going to attempt to answer questions that we received between Sunday morning and when we post this blog. You’ve given us some great ones so far, so keep ’em coming! Remember, we’re going to keep all responses anonymous, so feel free to ask anything.

Quick Recap

The fourth week of I Said What? was all about this part of the wedding vows…

I hereby with these words do promise and covenant to take you as my wife/husband. I commit from this day forward, to pursue peace in times of comfort and hardship, whether in plenty or in want, to remain faithful in a loving Christian marriage, to be understanding and forgiving, and to put your needs above mine as long as we both shall live.

…whether in plenty or in want. We talked about how God owns it all and we are just the managers. We also gave some pointers about how to manage God’s money. If you missed Sunday’s lesson, listen online to week 4’s teaching and download the notes and Home Work for your notebook:

Week 4 Audio & Notes

Now, let’s get to what you came here for! This week’s blog is guest-answered by Lance and Kathryn Cashion.

Q & A

Q: What happens when there’s no “safety net” for you as you start tithing and trusting God with your money? (i.e. no family who could help out in a pinch)

A: Thank you for this question. It hits on so many areas of faith and practice.

We have to go back to the Bible. Psalm 73 says “but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” God is your portion and the ultimate ‘safety net.’ Do you trust Jesus Christ with your eternal security? If you trust Him with something as important as your eternity, He can be trusted with everything else as well. I confess it can be a struggle to walk in obedience. But, we’re walking, remember? Meaning, we’re not going to stay in the same place in our faith. It is okay to have doubts and big questions along the way. That is part of growing. Take your doubts and questions to the throne of Grace.

Read about Gideon in Judges 6 or Moses or Peter. They all had doubts. The Bible instructs us to rely on God’s character, not the things of the world. We are to be completely dependent upon Him. God loves you and He is faithful.

Underlying your concern, which is valid, is fear. Fear is interesting. If we take a hard look at what we fear, we’ll often discover an idol. Confess those fears to God. He is a loving Father. Give of your first fruits, pay off debt while you build an emergency fund.

In conclusion, if my obedience to God is reliant on some outside entity, then I have to ask myself ‘who’ or ‘what’ am I REALLY trusting in? Is it God or something else? Where is your heart in this matter? (Disclosure: We have been in the same situation. I understand).

Q: The Bible says to not owe money to anyone. Is it more important to honor by tithing or honor by paying for debt first?

A: You’ll either love or hate this answer. Or BOTH! The most important thing to God is your heart (love the Lord with all your heart). We show God we love him by being obedient.

“What is more pleasing to the LORD: your burnt offerings and sacrifices or your obedience to his voice? Listen! Obedience is better than sacrifice, and submission is better than offering the fat of rams.” (1 Samuel 15:22)

Therefore, as you are paying off your debt, you are honoring God. Also, as you are being generous toward God, you are honoring Him. ‘Both’ is the answer. Prayerfully consider what that looks like for you take a step toward the Lord.

Q: What are your thoughts on credit cards in general, but also using them for the “rewards?”

A: I get this question quite a bit. Statistics state that people spend 47% more when using credit cards instead of cash.  There is some kind of psychological link between pain and cash vs. pleasure and plastic (credit/debit cards). Dave Ramsey probably makes one of the best cases against credit card ‘rewards’ here:



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